Being under house arrest has given me ample time to catch up on my soaps and other daytime TV shows. That explains why I was watching Dr. Phil this afternoon.
Dr. Phil is a relationship therapist who got his big break on Oprah.His show deals mostly with infidelity, kids with behavioral problems and dysfunctional families/relationships in general.
Today’s episode was a little different and is what inspired this post: Gold diggers.
Not THAT kind of gold digger!!!
THIS kind of gold digger!!!!
Two of the guests were gorgeous young women who would only date wealthy men. The third guest was a football player who was on the team that won The Super Bowl. I don’t remember who it was or why Dr. Phil even had him on the panel.
It’s a 30 minute show (well, 22 minutes not counting commercials) and the majority of that time was spent by Dr. Phil trying to make these women feel guilty for their gold digging ways. It didn’t work, of course.
Dr. P made statemnets like, “Don’t you feel bad for using these men just for their money?” and “Isn’t love more important than money?” When these women would say No, Dr. P would say something along the lines of, “Well, I think your priorities are screwed up.”
Occasionally, the football player would chime in and tell Dr. P and the audience how gold diggers were constantly after him, especially now that his team won the Super Bowl.
Now, I found this show a tad biased. It made these women out to be the big, bad bitches preying on rich, unsuspecting, naive men. But that’s only one side of the issue; only one point of view.
First off, the majority of these men knew exactly what these women were after. Wealthy men aren’t naive in the ways of the world, especially where their money is concerned.
How do you think they became wealthy in the first place? Sure, a few inherited their wealth, but the majority worked, lied, schemed and back-stabbed to get rich.
Most rich people are assholes and they know it. They know people with less hate them. The only reason those people with less money “like” the rich is because they want to better there own fortunes. Why wouldn’t an attractive woman do the same?
The gold diggers on Dr. Phil used men primarily for their money. But didn’t these wealthy men use them too? Not for money, but for sex and to have a beautiful woman to show off at business functions, social events etc?
Most wealthy men see wives/girlfriends as another posession. They want to make damn sure that they have the best looking “toy” out of all their cronies. If they need to spend some money on their wife/girlfriend in order to improve their image or be envied by their peers, they’ll do it.
My point is, the ‘using’ goes in both directions.
I’m not a gold digger and I can’t see myself ever being with someone solely for monetary gain. Don’t get me wrong, I like nice things and I like them even more when I’m not the one stuck with the bill.
But marrying for money is short-sighted, in my opinion. Especially when in ten years time they’ll likely drop their goldigging spouse and upgrade to a “newer model”.
I personally hate having to depend on people. It shifts the balance of power in any relationship which is never good where the weaker party is concerned.
I think I’ve rambled on long enough and I hope I’ve made my point. Whatever it was 😉
Until next time.